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How to be an awesome bridesmaid

She asked you to be a bridesmaid, and you said, “Yes!” You were chosen to be in the bridal party because you are someone special to the bride, and that is an honor – an honor that comes with responsibility. Read on for 5 ways to be an awesome bridesmaid!

Repeat This Mantra: “It’s Not About Me” Your main goal as a bridesmaid is to help make the wedding and planning process easier, meaningful, and enjoyable for the engaged couple. Their day is not about you – so do what is expected of you with a good attitude, and keep your opinions to yourself.

Show Up To Events. On Time. You’ll be expected to attend more than just the wedding – additional events include bridal showers, bachelorette parties, and the rehearsal dinner. If you’re the maid of honor, you may even be asked to accompany the bride during wedding dress shopping, or attend meetings with the wedding coordinator. This time is precious, so make yourself available, and show up to the events on time.

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Volunteer Instead Of Waiting To Be Asked You’re there to help out the bride with all kinds of things – addressing envelopes, assembling favors, planning her shower and bachelorette party, and more. And while it’s nice for you to sincerely say, “Just let me know how I can help,” it’s even more awesome for her to hear, “I can take that on.” Volunteer to help with a task without waiting for her to ask! She will appreciate you taking charge and having to think about one less thing.

Make Her Feel Special Remember that this time is about her, and make an effort to do little things that make her feel special. Order her favorite dessert for the bridal shower. Check in with her during the process to make sure she’s taking care of herself. Put together a playlist of her favorite music to listen to while she gets ready the day of the wedding. Small gestures will mean the world to her and let her know how much she means to you.

Enjoy Yourself!  This one should go without saying, but it makes a huge difference. If you are genuinely enjoying the wedding (and other events), she will feed off of that energy and it will help her enjoy this special time more, as well. So cherish the time you get to spend with and celebrate her, have a positive attitude, and dance the night away! At the end of the day, she will love to know that her wedding day was a blast for everyone involved, so give her the gift of your joy. You’ll most likely have to stay until the end of the wedding to help clean up anyway, so you might as well have fun!

And one final rule, specific to Portland: If it rains on her wedding day, bring your own sunshine and help her remember hers. 

Featured image on this post by: Andrea Zajonc Photography

This Tips & Advice piece was submitted by Dana Barbar, a trusted local wedding professional and talented writer.