Kids at weddings – yay or nay? The question of whether to have children in (or at) your wedding will most likely come up. It’s a personal preference, and depends a lot on your families and guest list. Remember that every decision is the right decision if it’s what you truly want as a couple. Having kids involved can make your wedding day even more special for the entire family, create lasting memories, and make for some precious photos. On the other hand, kids can change the vibe you may want for your wedding. Read on for things to consider either way.
If You’re Having Kids in Your Wedding, Keep in Mind…
- Kids (especially the younger they are) will almost always take a longer time getting down the aisle, so be prepared to be flexible with timing
- If you’re having an outdoor wedding, dress them appropriately for the weather, especially if it’s warm. Have them wear breathable fabrics so they don’t get overheated (and possibly cranky)
- If you’re having them stand up front with the wedding party, make sure the ceremony isn’t too long – their attention spans are shorter. Make sure they’re hydrated and fed beforehand, too!
- Get creative with props and signage if you can! A sign for a ring bearer or flower girl to hold that says something like “Here comes the Bride” will be so cute – and guests love it!
- Keep a “go with the flow” attitude – kids are kids, and they might get loud, messy, or refuse to walk down the aisle. A chill attitude will work wonders!
If You’d Rather Have an Adults-Only Affair …
- Don’t apologize! This decision might offend some, but it’s your day and your preference, and you do not need to apologize for it
- Announce as early as possible. Opinions vary on this, but we think it’s best to announce the no-kid rule when the save-the-dates go out – that way people don’t make arrangements only to find out a month before the wedding that their children aren’t invited
- Decide whether to announce it directly or sugar-coated. Just make sure that either way is clear. Direct example: “We kindly request that no children under 16 attend the ceremony and reception.” Sugar-coated example: “To give all our guests the opportunity to relax and enjoy our special day, we have chosen to keep our wedding adults-only. Parents, we hope this advance notice allows you to share in our festivities, and that you enjoy having a night off!”
- Try your best not to cave in if a guest says they must bring their child – if you allow one, others will see and might think you intentionally left their children out. Stick to your decision
- Keep a “go with the flow” attitude – understand that some guests just won’t be able to come if they can’t bring their kids for any number of reasons
This Tips & Advice piece was submitted by Dana Barbar, a trusted local wedding professional and talented writer.